This article is very helpful. I have several tween clients who are investigating whether they are transgender or not. I have also worked with several older teen and twenties clients to help them transition. They are very clear who they are. The younger ones I see, however, I have concerns about. They generally do not have memories of wanting to be a different gender from an early age, as my other transitioning clients do. When I asked one biological girl why she didn’t like her breasts, she said it is because boys look at them. That is a reaction most women felt in middle school when they started developing.

Middle school is aptly named, as that is when we all are in the middle of discovering and creating who we are. I support my clients in that, and one of them is now considering themselves non-binary rather than transexual. As our society becomes more attuned to the needs of many to be considered non-binary, I hope this will be the choice these middle school clients make, until they are very clear they want to change genders. Transition looks easy to them now, because they see it online, and they don’t look deeper into the experiences of people who have transitioned. Perhaps we can create a mentor situation for them with people who have transitioned, to help with their decision.

Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist. Leans Left. Mindfulness practioner before it was cool. M.Ed., LPC. Carolsantafe93@gmail.com.

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