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Therapist, Life Coach, or Girlfriend?
Who am I this time?
So my last boyfriend said, very early on, “Don’t analyze me.” I gave him my standard response. “Are you paying me? No? Then I’m not analyzing you.”
But, it really isn’t that simple. A therapist can’t unlearn what they know from years of experience working with people. We CAN turn it off when we are with you, and we usually do. Doing therapy for friends and lovers is not only unethical, but it’s also no fun for us. So, no, I am not trying to fix you when I’m dating you. However, I will try to figure you out, especially if there is a chance that you are not being authentic and real with me. It seems to be those types who insist that I not analyze them. What I can do, as a girlfriend and friend, is be your cheerleader, help you make plans, and support you emotionally while you travel toward your goals. Life Coaches do much the same, without the benefit of sex.
Recently, I added Life Coach to the services I offer. Some people need someone to help them lay out plans and to hold them accountable for reaching goals. People we are in relationships with are not always so happy when we do that. Although, within a healthy relationship we can ask each…
