Thank you Jason Weiland for tackling this subject. I put at the top of some of my dating profiles “NO DICK PICS.” This is often ignored. Or maybe it even triggers these dudes to troll by doing it. I don’t know, but they eliminate themselves with me immediately either way, so I guess the disclaimer serves it’s purpose.

The truth for me is that, if I have never even met you with your clothes on, I sure as hell don’t want to see you naked. Naked is what happens when we meet and hit it off, and start at least some form of relationship.

The first few times it happened, years ago, I was shaken and shocked, maybe even triggered. Now it is so commonplace that my mind goes, “Oh, another dick pic. How boring.” I’m sure this is not a healthy develpment. A dick pic I might not find boring is one of the person with whom I am having sex. However, If I can see it in person, why do I need a pic? For men in relationships who send them to their lover, I believe it is because men are more visual sexually, and therefore assume women are, too.

In answer to Sean Rose, I think you were pointing out the slut-shaming and not contributing to it, but I am not sure. You may want to clarify. There are women who like dick pics from strangers, but most of us do not, and it has nothing to do with who is a slut and who isn’t. Clearly the guys using their dicks as bait are fishing, but we don’t need to use this as another arena to classify women.

Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist. Leans Left. Mindfulness practioner before it was cool. M.Ed., LPC.

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