Might I also add that good sex doesn’t always have to include an orgasm by either partner to still be enjoyable. I had an older male partner once when I was in my 20s who didn’t orgasm sometimes. I was “mortified” that I hadn’t “made” him come. He asked me if I enjoyed sex sometimes even when I did’t orgasm, and I said yes. He said men can too. It opened up a whole world of pleasurable sex for me with no goal other than enjoyment. Having said that, before that lover, I had to learn through the book, “Everything You Want to Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask” that women’s orgasms are clitoral. The clitoris grows into the penis in the womb when male hormones hit, so duh. I learned to give them to myself so I could teach men how. Most are glad to be taught what works for us.

Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist. Leans Left. Mindfulness practioner before it was cool. M.Ed., LPC. Carolsantafe93@gmail.com. Www.Newsbreak.com/@c/561037

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