Maya Yonika, as I like to say, and have written before, you are not a cougar if the rabbits are chasing you. And they will, online or in person. As difficult as it may be for you, the trick is starting conversations. They won’t all turn out pleasantly, but I have made several good male (and female) friends by doing just that. No romances so far, but hope springs eternal. Go to Meet-Ups, which are designed for people to interact. They even have them for writers!