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Mansplaining Explained
Sometimes it isn’t what you think.
When I mentioned Mansplaining to my lover today, he Mansplained to me why men Mansplain. No, really, I didn’t feel Mansplained to at all. Even though his kids gave him a T-shirt for Father’s Day that says,
“I can explain it to you, but I can’t understand it for you,” he is not your typical Mansplainer.
If you are female, I’m sure you have been mansplained to. You are likely of the opinion that the man doing the ‘splaining was being condescending and patronizing. That’s what I thought, too.
But, my lover (let’s call him Morris), is very capable of having deep conversations with lots of back and forth. The only times he has Mansplained to me have been when he fixed something in my house and insisted on a show-and-tell of how he did it.
All men seem to want to do this, whether they are mansplainers or not. I have had auto mechanics lift the hood to show me exactly what they have done (I know my way around an engine. Enough to be dangerous). Guys who worked on my air-conditioning unit wanted to tell in detail how they fixed it. I have had described to me plumbing, electrical wiring, the level they set the lawn mower to get the right yard look, any and all use of chemicals for anything, and the finer points of…
