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And, yes, I woke up this way.

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Looking at my naked self in the mirror in my twenties I thought, “I have no breasts! I’m too thin. I’m not sexy!”

My therapist at the time had told me to go home, look at myself naked in the mirror, and concentrate only on what I liked. She knew my first inclination was to criticize, and she was right.

When I made myself focus on the good, I noticed that the tiny breasts I did have were quite nice, and that my rounded derriere that boys had made fun of when I was growing up by calling me “Bubble…


HUMOR

I’ll write a self help listicle for you as soon as I figure it out

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I have accomplished nearly nothing since coming back from vacation a week and a half ago. Oh, I’ve seen most of my weekly clients. I’ve written three articles for Medium and two for News Break in June, and it’s only June 4th. But other than that? Bubkus. Until today.

My son and my sister wore me out in San Diego. I’m a lay on the beach kinda gal, not a hit all the tourist spots one. We even hit the San Diego zoo. The day before we came home. …


Editor of New Choices. Mindfulness and antiracism practitioner before they were cool.

Head Shot by my son Blake Scott, aka Moonlair360 on social media. Notice the cat sneaking into the shot.

Once, I wrote my entire relationship history in one short, non-emotional, factual paragraph. The humorous, I hoped, plan was to text it to a first date to dispense with before the questions were asked. I never actually sent it. I’m also still single.

Here’s me, sans relationship history, longer than a paragraph, and I hope humorous and more interesting. Also in no specific order of occurrence, as that is how my mind works, and my careers have been.

I’ve been writing since I can remember. Haven’t most of us? All kinds. …


I’ve waffled on cryptocurrency for too long

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Tim Denning has never led me wrong, so when he chimed in on Bitcoin again today, I read what he has to say. What he had to say, besides the main point that Bitcoin isn’t dead, nor will be, explains the cryptocurrency phenomena as clearly as I’ve found.

I’ve waffled on Bitcoin and all cryptocurrency for too long for what I believed were good reasons. The original reason was not understanding anything about it, which is likely true for the majority of us.

When my son graduated from college six years ago and…


“Learnin’ how to really love takes a little time” — Ronnie McDowell

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That country song came out around the time of my first divorce. He left me for another woman. I was twenty-six years old. I’d been married seven years, and thought I was washed up. Finished. Done for. Yeah, I know. The angst of youth.

The song resonated with me. I had married the first man I had sex with and was totally unprepared for entering a dating scene where anything and everything goes. Talk about young, free and restless. And confused.

What I felt was used, older, and discarded. So this song became my anthem. I knew how to love…


Here’s how to get your dreams onto the proverbial page

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Do you remember your dreams? Or do you dismiss them as wanderings of the sleeping brain and let them go? I’ve done both. This time, I’m going to have to go with remembering and recording. And, with any luck, getting published and/or produced. Because, I dreamed an entire screenplay or book. Maybe both.

My dream was a mashup of “Magic Schoolbus” and “Magic Treehouse,” and maybe some “Up” and “Alice in Wonderland” thrown in, but with more peril.

I’ve not really considered writing children’s books. Not quite as much as I’ve not considered writing romance novels, but close. …


The church I grew up in is liberal, anti-racist, and welcoming, but I left organized religion anyway

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My first husband was a minister and hadn’t completely finished seminary when he quit for his own reasons. I was devastated and relieved at the same time. Being the wife of a minister, and also a wild-eyed feminist and progressive was challenging. In spite of the relief, after he left the ministry and especially after we divorced, I cried every time I attended any church service in any church.

I grew up in the Disciples of Christ/First Christian Church, known then and now for racial reconciliation, social equality, equity, and anti-racism. I also learned about other religions there. It formed…


We don’t appear to have learned anything since romantic love “began” in the 18th century

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My third marriage lasted eight months. We dated for four years. He proposed one morning by waking me up, presenting me with a ring and saying, “Even though you look pretty rough this morning, will you marry me?” Do you think that might have been a clue to the short duration?

“Courtship requires that prospective lovers reveal their feelings and that they do so more creatively and sincerely than their competitors,” states The History of Romance on the website for the National Women’s History Museum.

Tell that to Tinder, Grindr, or any of a number of other so-called dating sites…


Will solutions arrive too late?

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On May 6, 2021, Austin City Council asked the City Manager’s office and staff to come up with a plan and land to relocate homeless people who have been camping under underpasses, in medians, and all over the city of Austin, Texas.

That was five days after Austin voters passed Proposition B to ban homeless camping throughout the city. Five days isn’t enough time to help those newly criminalized by the passing of Proposition B.

Save Austin Now, a PAC formed to compose the proposition and push for it to pass, had been touting it for months before the vote…


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Welcome to Marc Chirico as a new writer for New Choices publication. His article on the new transit system planned for Austin,Texas and how it will impact those in poverty areas and traditionally minority neighborhoods, is extremely informative and illustrates the largest issues Austin faces now and in the future.

https://medium.com/new-choices/project-connect-austins-history-of-institutional-urban-renewal-906090f8543e?source=friends_link&sk=14e333b5d33a376fefccc4516eb76c01

My own new story is more personal. I’ve waited decades to tell it. The new choice is to tell all my experiences and truths, and encourage others to do the same. …

Carol Lennox

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