Originally, I planned on passing up my first chance to get vaccinated. I’m a psychotherapist, and because I see clients/patients outpatient, I am considered first tier for the vaccine. However, since I’ve been seeing all my clients through tele-health since early April, I thought I would give first responders who have to see patients in person a shot at the shot first, I would wait for the second tier, for which I also qualify.
Big mistake. Or maybe not, if it did give one more first responders easier access.
What my seeming sacrifice did is make it impossible for me to get vaccinated for the time being. Even though vaccination for the second tier is now eligible, most of us can’t get it. …
Once, I wrote my entire relationship history in one short, non-emotional, factual paragraph. The humorous, I hoped, plan was to text it a first date to dispense with before the questions were asked. I never actually sent it. I’m also still single.
Here’s me, sans relationship history, longer than a paragraph, and I hope humorous and more interesting. Also in no specific order of occurrence, as that is how my mind works, and my careers have been.
I’ve been writing since I can remember. Haven’t most of us? All kinds. …
Stop pressuring for it at the first meeting or before.
Elle Silver writes about being a celibate sex writer, hanging out with models in Barcelona and writing for Spanish Playboy. You can imagine how often she was hit on.
She writes that it was twenty years ago. My own early experiences with sexual pressure was longer ago than that. Post sexual revolution, but it seems pre-historic. Except, the more things change, the more they stay the same.
However, this isn’t a rant against sex. I love sex. I’ve often said most of my regrets are about the sex I turned down. Except for those who assumed sex on the first meeting. …
Today this question isn’t about Pearl Harbor and WWII, or 9/11 and Al Qaida. Today it’s about Americans attacking our own Capitol.
The only other time the Capitol Building has been breached was by the British during the War of 1812.
This unprecedented event is happening today because 45 has promoted fear, anger and violence for four years. Now that he is on his way out, he is determined to take Democracy with him.
Trump supporters, stoked by him earlier in the day, have done the unspeakable. They have attacked not ONLY the Capitol Building, and the Senators inside, but Democracy itself. …
You say unite, I say untie. I saw this typo recently, and after laughing, realized it might be true. Biden and Harris will be tasked with untying the tangled web woven by 45s lies.
If Biden and Harris are going to untie America, what will they need to do it? A lot of persuasion, determination, knowledge of differences, and dexterity.
There are plenty of pundits talking about how Biden/Harris will unite the country, although I must confess a profound amount of pessimism about the chances of succeeding at that. But what about untying America? …
The above is President Biden’s, “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country,” legacy phrase. President John Kennedy, whose legacy phrase that is, also faced a divided nation.
What President Kennedy did not have was a nation provoked into division by a power hungry, despotic predecessor who catered to other despots. That fact required a statement addressing power, and a desire to again become an engaged leader on the world stage.
President Biden’s inauguration was packed with powerful scenes, inspirational words, and reassuring moments. From seeing three former presidents from the two different parties on the stage together, to the stirring words of twenty-two year old Amanda Gorman, to witnessing the swearing in of our first female vice-president, who is also our first Black/Asian vice president. …
He didn’t say, “I am God.” Nope, nowhere. Get a red letter version of the Bible, with Jesus’ deeds and quotes in red, and search for it. I dare you.
He was quoted as saying, “Why do you call me good? No one is good except the Father.” Certainly sounds like he and Dad were two different “people.”
He didn’t say, “A penny saved is a penny earned.” That was Ben Franklin in his Poor Richard’s Almanac. There was no such thing as a penny in Israel or Rome.
He didn’t say, “Pull yourself by your bootstraps.” Instead he said, in several quotes, take care of the poor and needy. …
This is what I experienced, and what I wish I’d known then.
A few months before I became pregnant, my OB/GYN suggested a hysterectomy. I was thirty-nine, with benign uterine fibroid tumors that made me feel as if I were dying or trying to deliver a baby every period. It wasn’t pretty.
Talk about a pronouncement that lights a fire under you. He’d been my doctor for nearly twenty years. He knew me. But he didn't know me as well as he thought. I told him no hysterectomy, that I wanted a fibroid-ectomy, and that I wanted it immediately.
Within six months after the surgery, I was pregnant. Not by my husband, whom I was in the process of divorcing because he didn’t want children. That’s how I became a single mom at forty-one. …
I knew a major shift was happening when a banner appeared on the news that the National Association of Manufacturers condemned the assault on the Capitol Building within a couple of hours of the attack happening.
Major corporations followed. More than simply condemning the actions, these corporations actually stopped their donations to Congressional members of the Republican party who objected to the Electoral College vote certification.
BCBS, American Express, Commerce Bank, Marriot, Airbnb, Amazon, AT&T, Comcast, Disney, Mastercard, Verizon and Dow Chemical suspended donations to the 147 House of Representative members who voted against certification. …
Narcissism is on a spectrum, as I’ve written about in another article. I’m a psychotherapist who sees the fall-out from relationships with those with NPD, and have experienced them myself. One told me, “Carol, you hold a mirror up to me and I can’t look into it.”
Those with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or NPD, diagnosis can range from functional to those who manifest the Dark Triad of sadism, Machiavellianism, and sociopathy. They harm people in various ways. Love relationships are one of the most obvious areas they cause pain to others.
Certain types of people with NPD are the ones who are most likely to get you to fall in love with them. They are often charming, and catch you off guard. At some point they will leave you damaged and confused. Here’s how to spot them and protect yourself. …